My fiance (42 and I (36) are getting married before the end of this year (2022) He has a son (17) from his former marriage with his late wife who passed away from cancer.
I’d like to think that my stepson and I have a good relationship. however he is the most sensitive and emotional kid I’ve ever met. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing…..but it does make it difficult for me to deal with him sometimes.
He said he has already prepared a PowerPoint project in honor of his mom and is planning on playing or displaying it at the wedding.
This was an instant no from me for many reasons. My fiance said we should let him because he just wants to remember and honor his mom.
I told him that this occasion, the wedding has nothing to do with my stepson’s mom so I’m not sure why put a whole Powerpoint project there at the wedding about her.
it takes away guests attention and makes them confused. My fiance said we have to respect his son’s wishes and also said he’ll pay for the screen and everything. We had a huge fight about it and I refused to even consider it. the whole thing is just a no go. I even offered to have maybe few pictures or a seat as alternative but my stepson isn’t having it.
Things have been pretty tense now. My stepson isn’t talking to me, my fiance just keeps trying to guilt me into saying yes and it’s all just making me feel overwhelmed.
AITA for refusing to make this happen? my fiance commented saying my refusal is an indication that I have an issue with my stepson’s mom and that am being unfair to him since he spent so much time and effort to prepare this project that obviously…means a lot to him.
Side Note – This isn’t about my stepson’s mom. I don’t have any negative feelings towards her. In fact I think that she was a fighter (battled cancer not once but twice) she played huge role in what my fiance has become now and I’m so grateful for that.
About my stepson’s grief: When I first met him, he seemed to keep to himself and not attend any family functions. even when inside the house. He avoids spending time with family, is quiet most of the time and doesn’t really talk much. I suggested therapy but my fiance said he mentioned this once to him and his son yelled at him telling him to stop acting like there was something wrong with him by bringing up therapy. My fiance stopped bringing it up and whenever I try to mention it again he’d shut me down hard.