My 29 year old Singaporean born and bred son is a mess. If it wasn’t bad enough that he was a V even at 29, his first relationship had turned him into a hot mess. But he isn’t to blame. It’s partly my fault.
I grew up in the Kampong and always had a rebellious streak. You could call me an Ah Lian from the nineties. I loved hanging out with all races and tattooed men especially made me drool. But that was only until I met my husband and decided to settle down. My husband is the exact opposite of me. He follows every rule, believes in the virtues of chastity and I must say he has raised his children well. I’m so proud of all of them. They attend church on Sundays and have vowed to live chaste lives.
The problem started a few years back when my daughter (now 27) turned 23. Even though she was a straight “A” lister and went JC/Uni she got into some bad company and before we knew it she was breaking almost every rule that her father and brother believed in. Even though I have never told them about my ex-life I think genetics played a part and my daughter seemed to take to everything that I liked in my youth. Things came to a head when my son caught her in bed with her then FWB of another race. To make it worse he saw them “in action” and the guy was not just well built, but also tattooed and well endowed.
I think this trauma of seeing his sister drift, wanting to be the virtuous son and then getting into a relationship with a girl who has a past has played a big part in messing him up. He was already insecure. After he found out about his girlfriend’s past he is even more insecure and the past trauma makes him think everyone will be like sister. To be fair, his sister is now settled down (like me) and with a steady Ang moh boyfriend. I’m sure my son is still reeling from the trauma of seeing his sister’s partners tool and figuring his Asian manhood wasn’t anywhere near that.
I believe my boy is scared of going to church on Sunday and facing off the fact that he was with an “easy” woman. He broke off with the girl even though he loved her because he can’t imagine how he would introduce her to his father.
I feel so sorry for my poor boy who is still living with the hope of meeting that special someone who will be as virtuous as him. My heart goes out to him. But I’m secretly glad she took his virginity and gave him a taste of what he is missing out on. I wish he gains his confidence again and get get into a relationship. I only wish the best for him.
[Am waiting to her the sister’s and father’s view]