I have this 2 female co-workers who are super catty. They joined couple of months after me, initially when they just joined i had guided them at work and protected them. I was also tasked by my then boss to oversee and guide them along, while reporting to him.
Couple of months later as the girls passed their probation (their appraisal was done by my and i gave both of them v high scores), made friends in the company and got familiar with how things run in the company, we had some differences at work. They started to go for lunch without me, which i felt upset but accepted since i understand that you’ve your own right to choose who you wanna spend your “non-working” hours with. They would always side each other when there are differences within the team. Slowly as the tension grew between us, i even noticed they would do petty little things such as deleting my leave application emails, sabotaging me while i’m away from work, purposely distributing snacks to everyone except for me.
All the while i ignored and just do my own stuff, complete my tasks given by my bosses. At this point our roles also got restructured so (thankfully) i’m not required to oversee their work anymore, and we all get our own tasks.
Initially i thought that i was the problem and that i should be a better person and try to resolve our differences. But then after some time (when they attitude towards me is still the same despite me being nice to them), i just felt like what is the point? Sure i was pretty harsh on them initially when i was overseeing the dep because i was also quite new and stressed with the responsibilities placed on me by my boss, since i would be accountable for the 2 of them while i myself is still adapting. but i basically don’t bother them anymore ever since we’d restructured all our job scopes but their behavior is still the same. So like why am i blaming myself for everything?
I really think that i’ve done my best to resolve our differences and gave in. I just feel really frustrated and unfair that i’m becoming the black sheep when i never had any ill intentions.
My bosses are aware and my direct boss enables their behavior at times (eg accepting their lunch invitations with the both of them and other colleagues without me), while our initial boss who is no longer overseeing our dep is also aware and favoured me more over the 2 other girls and would trust me with more important work, but he is not really involved with our dep anymore.
Other than this i’ve pretty good work life balance and decent workload (which was something i prioritise a lot when looking for a job), and decent salary. But i’m really at the end of my wits with the 2 girls.
Just here to look for some opinion whether you would stay or look for any job in this situation? (Also since my bosses are kind of aware and my prev boss had indirectly pointed out their beha