Sometimes i feel that my bf is very ungrateful towards his parents. Do some guys not realize that its a huge turnoff when they say or do things that show how unfilial they are?
His family is an average singaporean family and he was provided with every basic needs a kid should have. He is the only son in the family and his parents have been working from early morning for years to provide for the family.
From what i see personally and from what he tells me, there was no ill-treatment, both physically or verbally that took place. So i can’t understand his ungratefulness toward his parents.
He would always complain about them to me and say harsh things. Even ridiculous things he will also complain.
He will say things like how his parents don’t care about his feelings and condition of the day when he is tired from work yet they ask for help when they need technological help for their phone etc.
Complained about how he could have better grades in school if his parents were smarter and tutored him. He will scold his mum behind her back for being stupid for not knowing certain things.
It is so ridiculous, i told him off and etc but he doesn’t seem to care much. With a full time job and a pretty decent salary, he told me that it is a waste to give his salary to his parents so he doesn’t want to.
When i had dinner with his parents, his mum hinted that he should give at least 10% of his salary to them. Isn’t that the basic filial piety that one can give to their parents? But he just ignored what his mum said as he claims that it was just a ‘joke’.
When i ask him to at least bring them out for dinner, he just claim they prefer homecooked food. I even told him since he hates them so much, why not just move out and live by himself.
To my surprise he said if he moves out, no one will cook for him and wash his clothes. He also does not want to ‘spend unnecessary money on housing expenses’. So he is just living off his parents while complaining about them 24/7…
Casually over dinner, i discussed this with my parents to see how they feel about this. They couldn’t believe how he refused to give part of his salary to his parents. My mum said that if he don’t even want to support his parents when he is capable now, how will he even support a family next time? She threw the bomb and told me to break up with him. What is the right thing to do in this situation?