Is it possible to have a relationship with someone who is 11 years older?
I’m currently 23 and still in uni, but this guy is way senior than me and I find him extremely attractive. He goes to the gym regularly, has a very nice body, great smile, good look to me at least, nice personality, friendly, smart, earned a PhD, has a decent job, filial, love animals, has a strong sense of humour, and most importantly is that I don’t see any age gap between us.
He broke up with his ex for like 2 years and has yet to find a girlfriend, so I’m not sure if he wants a relationship or not, but I’m totally up for it.
I’m afraid that he might be too old for me, and my parents are very likely to object our relationship, but I just feel wasted if I don’t try going for it since I really like him a lot.
I have many suitors too but most of them aren’t my type. Is 11 years really a huge age gap?
Here are what netizens think:
- Two friends of mine have that age gap or more. Not an issue at all. Good luck!
- I’ve have friends in theirs 30s dating someone in their 40s and one of married and started a family. However the ones who I know that had a relationship or got married younger did not last. Also some guys turn out to be condescending and controlling after you get married and stay together to a younger wife/ aka show their true colours, so I would proceed with caution. I’d say for quite a number of guys after a certain age… there’s a reason they’re still single. If you’re serious date for a longer period of time and clearly communicate what you want and don’t. It’s not enough to trust in him just because he may seem older and more mature with a job and what not.
- Try lah, what’s there to lose? Buay gam can always break up what. That’s what dating is for? Not asking u to marry him tomorrow
- Personally I think a reasonable age gap is a healthier relationship (assume no mind gap). Gals need to be pampered, older guys will have gathered sufficient experience how to “guide” the relationship (assume both of you are mind matured). He looks like have a secured job, high prospect. However, one small doubt as you are still in Uni, still a risk as you have not exposed to the working world. Will you meet someone equal or better than him? Will your perspective change later?Jusr my 2 cents!