Dating scene in SG?
hello! just curious to read some opinions from the online community regarding the topic of dating in SG, especially in your 20s. while i understand that relationship timelines differ from person to person, was just wondering what is the most common way that people start dating in SG, aside from dating apps?
even though i know i shouldn’t feel pressured by societal expectations, recently i felt a sense of urgency on this issue, especially since i’m in my third year of university and i’ve got about 1.5 years more before i’m out of the educational system. people around me have been saying things like “as you grow older, the pool of people available to choose from decreases” or “if you don’t attempt to date, how do you know what you want in a relationship?”. i guess these sentiments are true and i acknowledge that it’s advisable(?) to date someone with similar relationship experience as you, since 0 and 1 is a huge difference already; and this pool of people will only continue to decrease and people will be more experienced as you grow older. many people say that university is the best place to get to know new people through ccas, activities and classes, hence a prime time to test the waters in a way.
also to clarify, it’s not that i want to jump on the bandwagon because people in my age group are getting into relationships. i’m comfortable with where i’m at, i have a group of supportive friendships and i’m happy being able to things independently and work on myself as well; generally content with things which i’m deeply grateful for! but at the same time i also feel like i have evaluated why i want to be in a relationship and i’m ready to explore a romantic relationship as well, however i’m unsure how to go about doing it.
i’ve mostly been a wallflower through my school years, but despite that i have participated in ccas, events and activities and interacted with different people here and there. but beyond duties and friendships aside i’ve never really been interested in anyone romantically to the extent that i would like to take things further. neither has anyone approached me with romantic intent, hence i’ve never had a crush/boyfriend/situationship of that sort and it makes me feel like i’m not doing something right?
i understand that relationships go both ways, both sides have to show and reciprocate. i just don’t get how people fall so easily, or put themselves out there to attract a romantic interest? i’ve been mulling over this for some time, trying to join activities and explore options, meet new people or even reevaluate myself or my approach but i can’t seem to figure it out. my friends say i’m pretty chill, easy going and rather funny once they got to know me, though i lean towards to being a little quiet and awkward in the beginning. if it helps, i’m an intp female, so might explain some of the introversion and overthinking on my part too.
any constructive advice or discussion would be helpful!! tysm for reading and all the best to anyone facing similar issues :’)