I [F27] have been in Singapore for 6 years and my mother-in-law treats me like I’m living under the rock!!
My mother in law thinks that South East Asians other than those from Singapore are uneducated
For context, I am from Vietnam and have been together with my Singaporean husband for two years and have been living with him and his parents.
She asked me if knew what an air conditioner is and if it was a new thing to us!!! She’s done so many ridiculous things like ‘ teaching’ me how to spell the word ‘ low ‘ and ‘ brunch’ when I didn’t ask for despite of the fact that I speak English.
She also kept telling me that my parents in Vietnam ‘can’t afford’ things when she has no clue about their business and how much they make.
I used to make my husband’s family some Vietnamese food and snacks for most our meals and because of that she labelled me as ‘poor’ because that’s what we eat.
She even thought that I never had anything local to Singapore or any other dishes from other countries before I came here which is unbelievable!!!
Worst part is that she dare to think that any South East Asian not from Singapore are all uneducated!!!!!!!
I hate to see her but I don’t want to make my husband sad.
We’ll also be having our wedding ceremony in Vietnam this November for my family, relatives and friends in Vietnam and having her there will absolutely be a nightmare.
What do I do?
Here are what netizens think
- Talk to your husband, forget the “im scared to hurt his feelings”. Shes literally making a hate crime out of you, and if your husband doesnt put and end to it, might be the end of your relationship, cause girl if it aint stopping now better say goodbye to it ending ever.
- Try to talk to your husband. This isn’t something you should try to protect him from. He’s an adult and he should know what his mom is doing to you. Don’t just lay there and take it from her.
- Tell your husband! You need to know BEFORE you marry if he is going to be supportive of you or put his mother first. Do not put it off.
If you don’t tell him, this could end up being a lifelong problem. Always be honest with your husband, and do not set yourself on fire to keep him warm. You deserve happiness as much as he does.