Why won’t his D go in and why is it painful?
So me and my boyfriend are both virgins, and we starting talking about possibly having intercourse about a month ago, and today we decided to do it. However, it went horrible.
Any time he tried to put his D in me, it just wouldn’t work, like wouldn’t go in anywhere.
So I tried putting it in where I thought was the right spot, but it was so incredibly painful (and I have a pretty high pain tolerance so it really hurt).
It never hurts when he fingers me or anything like that, so I was kinda confused why it hurt so bad.
He then tried fingering me again after that, to like try to open it up or something and I think I was just dry at that point because that also really hurt.
I’ve been told that the first time is supposed to hurt but that was extremely painful, so is that normal?
We tried for almost an hour for something to happen, and just nothing. I ended up just crying at the end cause I felt really bad that I wasn’t able to get it in.
My boyfriend reassured me that it was fine, but I just feel like I’m broken or something.
Netizens’ comments
- This is actually quite similar to how my first time went. I’m sorry!! Definitely lube will help. Like, a lot of lube. Try to relax and not stress. I know that’s easier said than done. Definitely don’t underestimate fore play.
Some people say being on top your first time is best so you can control the pace, but in my experience that just makes my muscles tense more, making the entrance tighter.
Honestly, depending on how big he is, and your anatomy in comparison, it might hurt regardless during the first time.
Using a toy a little smaller than him alone or together might also help. Also, if you or he can make you come before penetration, that may also help you relax emotionally and physically.
That won’t work if all you want to do is curl up and sleep after orgasming, though. Good luck!! - Everyone is different, but most of your problem is likely the lack of lubrication and nervousness making you tighter so he can’t penetrate. Relax those muscles and don’t clench when he tries to slide it in.