Real talk: Why nowadays Singaporean couples so strawberry and weak? Cannot *tahan* a bit is it?**
Eh, seriously, I need to open thread and rant because I cannot take it anymore. What the hell happened to relationships in Singapore? Last time, our parents’ generation very straightforward, no-nonsense one. Men work hard to bring home the bread, women take care of the house and the kids like a boss. Both sides knew their duty, clear-cut. Now? Everything also want to switch roles here and there until nobody knows what they are doing, then end up divorce rate shoot up to the sky.
Let me clarify first, before the woke crowd comes at me and downvotes this to oblivion: I am NOT saying women cannot work, or men cannot stay at home to take care of the family. If that arrangement works for your household, good for you, go ahead. But a relationship is supposed to be a team job, bro! It’s about partnership, not a competition.
Nowadays, it’s just *i push you, you push me*. “Why I must do this? Why you never do that?” Everyday just calculating who did more chores, who spent more money, who sacrifice more sleep. Like doing audit for big MNC like that, everything must keep receipt. If you are constantly competing instead of cooperating, how to survive long term?
Look at our mothers’ time. You think their lives were perfect? You think our fathers were angels? Hell no. They also faced massive financial problems, crazy in-law drama, and major stress. But what did they do? They bite their teeth, *tahan*, and settle the issue together. They understood commitment. They built families that lasted decades because they looked at the big picture.
Nowadays? *Knn* small thing only, direct go divorce *la*. Miscommunication a bit, then say “our values don’t align” or “the dynamic is toxic” and run to the lawyer. One small argument and the whole marriage broken already.
And don’t get me started on why everyone now so *ah gua* and weak. Everything also need “therapy” or must go see “counsellor” to discuss feelings. *Lan jiao* space out, validation, and healing vibes. I’m not saying these assistance tools are completely bad—if got severe trauma or abuse, obviously go get professional help. But honestly? Most of the time, people now are just too woke and too soft. No mental stamina at all. Cannot take even a grain of friction. The moment the honeymoon phase ends and real life hits, they shatter like cheap glass.
Marriage is not a TikTok video or an Instagram reel where everything is aesthetic, smooth, and effortless. It takes real grit, thick skin, and mutual sacrifice. If Singaporeans keep having this strawberry mindset—zero resilience, zero tolerance, and 100% selfishness—then don’t wonder why our society’s family unit is breaking down. Everyone wants the perks of a lifelong partner but nobody wants to put in the hard labor to maintain it. Wake up *la*, life is tough, go fix your problems and communicate like grown-ups instead of running away the moment things get heavy!