My husband and I have been through a hard year and a half. My FIL died in an accident in 2020. We moved 2 doors down from my MIL to help out since my husband’s brothers have houses and families when we didn’t. Unfortunately my BIL’s didn’t take us moving closer very well nor did they like my husband (the youngest of all the siblings) taking charge when my FIL was in the hospital and for the funeral when my MIL couldn’t do it. But my husband wasn’t working at that point and had the time.
The house we moved into was a family member and the one brother thought he was going to inherit it, but the family wanted money and we came up with the most cash to buy it. My BIL verbally assaulted my husband and then they stole one of my husband’s and his dad’s race car, which was parked at my in-laws at the time, we ended up calling the police to get back and since then we haven’t talked to the brothers or their families.
Fast forward, my MIL remarried a few months ago, but we had Covid and couldn’t make it to the wedding. The new husband was hoping the wedding would bring my husband and the brothers back together but us getting Covid back fired on that plan.
Recently, we found out we’re pregnant with our first and it’s been a very tough pregnancy my doctor has put me on bed rest.
My MIL and new husband came to us recently and told us that they paid and reserved hotel rooms for the whole family in July. We politely declined because
1) my doctor said no
2)his brothers will be there and we don’t need the stress.
The new husband said that we’re selfish and we’re not taking my MIL’s feelings into consideration. My husband decided he no longer wants to be around his brothers and does not want our child around them and I will support whatever decision he makes.
But are we in the wrong for not going?
They didn’t ask us before they paid and reserved the rooms and knew I’m pregnant and have been in and out of the hospital.
My parents and a few close friends were in the room when the vacation discussion happened and they agreed with us, but some others are saying to suck it up and go on this vacation.
I did ask my doctor who also said no just because I need weekly appointments and blood draws and they don’t want me to go too far in case something happens. But people are saying we need to stop thinking of ourselves, but we feel we’re not thinking of ourselves. We’re thinking about our unborn child.