Widowed women, how do you “satisfy” your needs?
I’ve been widowed for 6 years now. I chose to still be “married” to my late husband, because it’s what makes me happiest.
So at first I had an adult toy that I got as a joke, that has taken a…different role since his passing. I also have some pictures of him saved on my phone that I “pleasure myself” to.
I also have one video that I have hidden. It’s very short but it’s a video of us getting frisky with each other. I also have some pictures that he used to sent me on a business trip.
Lately, it’s kind of gotten stale. I never ever want another man, but the same old pictures every day don’t give the same excitement they used to.
I ordered a new vibrating toy online, I’m gonna give that a try. If anyone (women only please) has any tips on how to spice things up I’d really appreciate it.
All I ask is that you don’t make fun of me for my likes and dislikes. It’s very embarrassing but I got the guts to post it because this is anonymous.
since my husband is gone, I have a little contraption, a body pillow and one of his old hoodies so I can pretend it’s him
Netizens’ comments
- I’m a man so won’t weigh in on your question. I just wanted to say that I find your enduring love and loyalty really touching. I know your husband would want the best for you and your happiness, whatever that might be.
- I just want to applaud you meeting your own needs and reaching out for advice to spice things up. Good for you!! I also love that you sleep with his hoodie. That’s is so precious… and I’m so sorry for your loss.
- You are a great woman! Huge respect for you! Your husband is no more in this world yet alive in your heart! 👍👍👍👍.
- I’ve been a widow since January. I’m 41. My libido is very high. It’s been a struggle. We were extremely physical with each other, always touching, holding hands, kissing.
I too, have a makeshift cuddler pillow that I put his old t-shirts on. When I feel extremely touch starved I get a massage (a regular one, no funny business).
I have several videos of us but can’t bring myself to watch them yet so I just use memories and my imagination. Death is hard…