A Singaporean girl recently posted on Facebook after she felt that her husband has an extremely bad habit. She stated that after getting married, she realised that he did not like to shower or brush his teeth before he sleeps.
Here is the full story.
I married my bf of 6 years and got our key to our BTO early last year. After living with my bf for the past few months in our new flat, I realized our living habits are DRASTICALLY different in so many unthinkable ways. This has taken a toll on my mental health as I struggle to adapt to his living habits.
For example, he doesn’t shower and brush his teeth before going to bed and I’m quite disgusted by it. I’ve told him countless times that showering and brushing of teeth before sleep is what we should do (because who wants to kiss, cuddle and have sex with your stinky husband in bed right, especially when he had a long day at work). He told me he has been doing this since young and it is just a habit he has. He only shower and brush his teeth in the morning or before going out. After he showers, he won’t be able to sleep until after a few hours later. I know I shouldn’t be so selfish as to judge him, but I’d rather not sleep on a bed knowing it is filled with his own sweat and dirt (he don’t wash his feet after work either) he accumulated throughout the day, and disrupt my sleep.
Another example is that whenever my husband goes to the washroom to pee, he just urinates WITHOUT LIFTING THE TOILET SEAT and the whole seat will be filled with droplets of his own pee. I know it is hard to control your own stream, but please, for goodness’s sake, DO NOT urinate as though you’re only living alone by yourself. I have to always use wet wipes to clean the toilet seat before I can do my own business. When I tell him this, he told me to LIVE WITH IT or GET USED TO IT?!?
Also, whenever we have dinner at home, he does not help to do the dishes at all. I know he’s tired from work but so am I? Even though I end work slightly earlier (4pm) than him (6pm), I have to rush home to make dinner for us on days we don’t eat out. After eating his dinner, he will just go to the kitchen skin to wash his mouth and proceed to jump into bed while leaving the dishes and food waste on the table untouched. I don’t mind doing the dishes if he at least helps a bit like throwing the food waste away and bringing the dishes to the sink. When I tell him that, he says he’s tired and it’s just simple task to me??? HELLO?
Those are just a few examples from a list of MANY. We have not really lived together for long periods as it is usually sleepovers. And when we travel together in the past, those issues do not matter because there is always room service in hotel and travelling usually last a couple of days and not all habits are shown unlike when you live together for the rest of your life, aka, DECADES.