I divorced 5 months ago because she came out as a lesbian. I didn’t want the baby when she came out to me because I felt it would be awkward for us to co-parent and I didn’t want any contact with her. However, she wanted to keep the baby so I accepted her decision and didn’t talk about it anymore.
A few weeks ago, the baby was premature by nearly 2 months and turned out to be stillborn. I was in a business meeting so I texted her saying I was sorry for her loss and had flowers sent to her. Her gf and family have been calling and texting me since then saying that I’m a heartless jerk for not going to meet her at the hospital after such a traumatic experience.
My ex called me and said that I must be really happy that I got what I originally wanted.
To be honest, although I feel sorry for her loss, I am relieved that we don’t have to stay in contact with each other anymore and I can move on from her.
Am I in the wrong?
Edit: I had originally wanted the child but when I found out that she cheated on me, I didn’t look forward to co-parenting with her. I felt it would be better for the baby to be aborted rather than to suffer from our bad relationship.
That doesn’t mean I would’ve hated the baby upon its birth. I’d have loved it regardless. Just that it would be difficult to co-parent with a person who’s bad at communication.
In short, I didn’t want the baby. I just didn’t want a baby with a person who might not be a good parent. I do love babies. I always wanted a baby with the person I love.
To all those saying that I’m relieved about a baby’s death…..I’m NOT relieved that the baby died, I’m relieved that I no longer will be forced to be cordial with my ex.