My husband (32M) and I (32F) are fighting about farts.
My husband will fart openly in front of me, and me in front of him. He farts probably about 3x as much as me.
The problem is I have an extremely sensitive sense of smell. I gag and feel sick over bad smells very easily, and his farts have woken me up and made me feel so sick to my stomach that I can’t sleep the rest of the night.
The problem is that I want him to either warn me of the fart so I’ll breathe through my mouth or leave the room to fart.
He feels shamed by this, and we just got into a fight because I gagged over a silent but bad smelling fart, and got mad at him for not warning me or leaving the room.
His answer was that he sometimes farts without thinking about it, and says he feels like I’m treating him like he’s disgusting, while I feel like I’m asking for a relatively small courtesy. I don’t know what to do.
How can we solve this without me feeling sick or him feeling shamed/like I’m disgusted with him?
I reflexively apologize or announce that I farted when I do it. We’ve been together for 8 years, married for 2.
- He needs to leave the room to fart if you’re around. Not much he can do if he’s asleep and unaware.
- this is just disgusting
- Farting is normal, you’re overreacting tbh.
- If you can’t even deal with his farting, why are you even married to him in the first place. But then again, getting divorced over farts is kinda stupid.