I found out that my husband has been cheating on me but he doesn’t know that I know, yet.
I was bored at 2am one night and decided to go on my husbands phone out of boredom while he was asleep. I expected to just see cute photos he took of our family and things like that but ended up finding out he’s been cheating on me for 11 months
It’s insane because he acts normal like nothing changed. Still looks at me in the eyes everyday like everything’s great and nothing happened so I didn’t expect this at all. Last thing I would think to happen and I wouldn’t even have found out unless if I checked his phone
I know people are against going through spouses phones and now sometimes I wish I knew earlier, sometimes I wish I didn’t check at all so I wouldn’t know
What I found out on his phone:
- met a 22 year old Viet woman he was chatting up with at a pub. They exchange photos. He sent her money to meet him on another date. They also been f-ing at her dorm.
- I found out he thinks I’m ugly and he hates my “mom belly” I didn’t even know he thought I was unattractive and fat because we still f and he still tells me I’m beautiful. Wow so two faced
- I saw his social media accounts where he comments on and leaves thirsty comments on other women’s photos and sometimes he messages these girls validating their beautiful looks
This just is so disappointing in all levels. We have 2 small kids. I don’t want to divorce him. I still love him. I don’t wanna separate our family. I want to stay. I can’t compete with every man wanting a young 20 something girl. I have kids and I let myself go and I spent most of my life with this man
He doesn’t know I know about this. I just don’t know where to start since I still plan to stay with him. Im trying hard to forget what I saw but it’s been a week now and Im having nightmares about this woman and my husband
Edit to add: of course SHE (the other woman) knows he’s married. They talk about me in their messages. She just doesn’t care he’s married with kids. She’s clearly just having fun…