My husband admitted to his friends that he didn’t find me beautiful. Nothing feels the same anymore
I’m newly married. After our honeymoon my husband had a group video call with his best friends. After I said hello and chatted for a bit with them I excused myself to go for a walk.
I decided I needed to get my raincoat because it looked like it was about to rain but my husband and his friends thought I’ve already got out.
They started interrogating about our honeymoon and they were all teasing and laughing until one of his best friends asked him if my looks were still an issue for him.
My husband told her that he loved me and that we had a great honeymoon and that I’m beautiful on the inside and he said “you can’t have it all”.
She insisted on wondering whether he felt he’d downgraded from his ex girlfriend and he said “maybe, but she (me)makes me happy.”
Another friends then interjected and said I wasn’t bad looking if I lost some weight, my husband agreed.
Nothing feels the same anymore. I always knew I wasn’t beautiful but I thought that he liked how I looked, or at least, didn’t mind it so much.
I know he values my other qualities and that he loves me and is very kind to me but I don’t feel good with him and I haven’t been happy since that day (5 weeks ago).
I have lost weight under these weeks and he’s paid me a lot of compliments about that but I don’t want him commenting anything about my physical appearance anymore.
I hate every encouraging word he has to say and yet I feel like I need to be more appealing to him. I feel so much hurt it’s insane! 🙁