My(30F) husband’s (30M) snoring is legitimately damaging our relationship
im literally at my wits end actually typing this out on the couch as he’s snoring away in our bedroom.
So we’ve been together 7 years. He’s always snored but it’s only ever been this bad when he’s sick. He’s tried the strips, a mouth guard from his dentist, we have a humidifier in the room and it doesn’t seem to matter anymore whether he sleeps on his side or his back.
I’ve seen videos of tongue exercises (for real, don’t make it dirty) he can do and sent them to him but he doesn’t seem particularly interested in them. He makes some effort but I don’t think he understands what this is doing to me. I hate sleeping next to him and it makes me hate being in our bed together at all. I definitely have no interest in getting intimate because of the pure sleep exhaustion and anger I feel towards him for hours throughout the night. I’ll wake up and see if I can go back to sleep through it. If I can’t I nudge him to change positions. If this happens enough times he gets irritated saying he can’t help it and I should let him sleep.
I use ear plugs and spend much of the night with my pillow wrapped around my head which is uncomfortable. I’ll be up for hours in the night each night just trying to get back to sleep through constant snoring.
He thinks he needs to lose some weight and that will help which could be true (his BMI is still healthy but on the higher side these days). He is eating better and still working out but I need a solution now. He’s been to the doctor before and the doctor doesn’t take it as seriously as I need him to. A sleep test has never been ordered even though I’d guess it sounds like sleep apnea.
What do I do? I’m so angry at him all the time because I’m not sleeping.
Also if anyone says this is abuse or we should get a divorce I wish a hundred stubbed toes in your future. I know this sub goes there over everything but I’m not interested.