Wife goes crazy when she’s pissed off
My wife can do crazy stuff when she is pissed off. She can throw furniture, punch, kick me, throw a Xmas tree down the house, throw my HP, throw food on the floor, etc etc etc. Block my HP, block IG and FB, remain u contactable until she is happy. It’s always my fault when there is a quarrel, she tends to jump to conclusions without finding out more details. She will be angry over the slightest issue, very low tolerance for me. I have to be careful with my words, anything against her thoughts may trigger her. One of the reasons is she feels more superior as I am a divorcee with a son.
However, I appreciate her for accepting me as a divorcee with a son. We can be very happy and have alot of fun when she is calm and normal.
There are too many incidents to bring up that I feel is very unreasonable and scary.
She asked me to dabao lunch for her at 2.30pm. I told her I will be back 3-4pm ok? She is ok and I bought her fav roasted chicken dumpstick.
When I was home at 3.40pm, she was angry that she had to wait more than an hour and shd have told her to get grab. There are many times she expects me to think of many scenarios and possibilities from 1 sentence. I must admit I am not sensitive. I rushed back as fast as I could but my effort was not appreciated and I got another scolding as usual. There are many times she wakes up late, have bread and have late lunch so as to skip dinner. She was ok for me to dabao lunch so I did. In the end, she was so pissed she threw the rice on the floor, everything was scattered. I caused this issue, I was responsible so I had to clean up the oily mess. I feel this has gone too far. There are worst incidents.
Shd I continue to endure all these ? We have agreed to see a counselor, I already went for my session. It has been 2 months and she is still taking it as low priority to see the counselor.
I even went for a family violence counseling to learn how to not trigger her. She refuses to go as she feels that I am the reason for her behavior. As long as I don’t trigger her, she won’t react this way.
Shd I just be patient and wait for her to visit the counselor and then wait for the couple session?
Or I am being stubborn trying the impossible? My objective is just to have a better communication and hopefully some respect.