Both my partner and I are in the same field of work. We both make great money and have good careers. I left my last job a year ago to refocus and decompress. A friend of mine offered me a job with the company he is joining. This job has stupid high pay. Last year while I wasn’t working she was making a lot. She recently just took a pay cut to reduce her workload.
If I take this job I’ll basically be making 2.5x her salary. She flat out told me she was angry and jealous, but not in the funny ha-ha way. She was very angry, almost crying. She’s always been slightly competitive, but I try not to be. I expected a celebration, or at least a congrats.
I have ideas of what’s upsetting her, but I don’t want to jump to conclusions. Is this common with couples? I’m just giving her space for now, but I was hoping for her to be happy about it.
I really did not expect her to respond this way and I thought that she will be delighted as we can eventually buy a better car or some gift or even a holiday for her to actually relax and be happy.
Oh well seems like money is not important, she has more pride than a man.
We’ve been together 10ish years. This was new for me.
I seek advice from a female friend and she said:
“From a women’s perspective. Her reaction was over the top and completely unacceptable. Yet let’s treat her and praise her for it. If GF doesn’t apologize and express regret for her reaction, he really needs to reevaluate his relationship not reward her. Give her a few days and see how she behaves after she calms down. Her reaction even with stress is not understandable. There are some people out there who are only happy if they feel you are below them or are doing better than you. “