A netizen shared how his wife keeps comparing him to other people’s husbands and making him feel very worthless.
Here is the story
I’m in my mid-30’s. Working in a tech company that pays pretty decent. But of late, I think my spouse together with the sister, thinks that I missed the mark. And this made me feel very worthless.
My wife will even sometimes outright compare me with this and that person’s husband. It’s disturbing me and very often leads to arguments.
To be honest, I feel like the sister does a lot poisoning and my wife is gullible or obliged to listen to her.
Come to think of it, I do a lot. I draw salary up to 5 figure a month, and I paid for EVERYTHING and have to give my wife 300 every month.
I spend more time with the kids on weekdays and weekends. I can’t afford a car because I’m paying for everything and barely have enough for saving or myself.
Yet, my wife spends all her money on herself and even get into credit card debt.
It’s been affecting my confidence a lot and I just hope to end this relationship. But I think of the children, and it saddened me that they have a mother like this.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Netizens’ comments
My parents are still together but there is completely no love between them anymore. All they do is talk bad about each other to my sister and I and occasionally add in “if not for the kids, I would have left long ago”.
I don’t think they’re guilt-tripping us; it is what it is, I know both of them only remained married because of us. Both their external families have couples who divorced and their children turned out TERRIBLE (though I wouldn’t fully attribute that to the divorce), and my parents were afraid my sister and I would turn out like that.
Thing is, I would very much rather they got a divorce instead. They think they did it for us but they don’t know how we live in fear whenever both of them are at home because they argue over the smallest things, and how guilty we feel that they had to give up potentially finding a new partner who loves them because of us.
My point is if staying in the relationship for your kids is the top priority, you might want to reconsider that. If your relationship with your spouse is broken beyond repair but you stay together with her for your kids, they’ll end up hurting in one way or another either way.