I’m just really confused by this… if I curse or use any vulgar language she gets visibly upset and tells me to stop doing it because she doesn’t like it all. Even if I’m talking to my friends or coworkers she tells me to stop doing it.
Well, this weekend her uni friends came to visit us and they were cursing up a storm. My wife’s friends husband (who she also went to uni with) was telling extremely vulgar stories and my wife was laughing hysterically. Every time he cursed my wife would giggle… She didn’t seem offended at all.. in fact she seem to love how he talked and told stories. If I were to ever say the things he said she would be upset about it for a week straight.
I approached her about it and she said that it’s not her job to correct her friend’s language and that she holds me to a higher standard that’s why she doesn’t want me to curse but it’s ok for her uni friends to use that language.
I completely understand that but that doesn’t really explain why she is visibly upset when I use vulgar language. If you don’t like it when people curse then anyone that curses around you should upset you or at the very least annoy you.
It just seems so weird to me that she is not only ok with her friend’s language but she actually finds it funny and entertaining.
I kept pressing the issue and my wife said that it’s also because she’s known her uni friends longer then she’s known me.. really??? We’ve been together for 4 years.
Is there a 10 year buffering period before I can curse around my wife? …. I’m just confused about all this.