Me and my husband have been married for over six years, living together for nine years and we have a one-year-old child together and two beautiful dogs.
I have been back at work (approx 30 hours a week), since our son was 3 months old due to my husband losing his job due to the pandemic lockdowns back then. My husband has successfully acquired a new position working 38 hours a week since then earning more than enough to support us three comfortably
Long story short, I am feeling burnt out from both sides of the candle and I am unsure if I am projecting my frustrations on this laundry task. I am solely responsible for being the primary carer for our son and all of the household cleaning and maintenance as I work 8 hours less than him a week. Yes, he does cook dinner 4 nights a week- but it’s like a hurricane comes through the house when ever he cooks… that’s another story.
Anyways, over the last several years I constantly find myself rewashing his clean clothing. I wash, hand out to dry and neatly fold his clothing neatly. His only job is to put them away in the draws, but here is the kicker. He will put them on the floor and the dogs will lay on them ( we also have a pug that loves to piss on anything that’s out of place…). I’m sick of “nagging him” to put away his clothing and I refuse to do It for him as he “likes the clothing put away a different way than what I do it” (he has ADHD & BPD)
So, as of the last three weeks I finally followed up on my threats and I haven’t completed any of his washing, I left what has been washed on the cloths-horse and he got mad at me tonight as “I don’t work as much as him, so I should have more free time to do his laundry”
Was it wrong of me to make a point?