WIFE LIED ABOUT GOING OVERSEAS ALONE, SECRETLY PLANNING TRIP WITH MAN WHO LIKES HER

Should I divorce my wife? (Serious Question)

I found out yesterday that my wife lied to me about going overseas alone where in fact she has been planning to go with a guy (which the guy has been chasing/texting/contacting my wife frequently and has declared his love for her once).

The truth is I discovered this as my wife passport had no longer than 6 months validity till expiry hence she can’t go.

I am heartbroken and furious. I wanted a divorce but I can’t bear to leave my daughter (4yrs old) and I have a son who just turned 1yrs old. I don’t know I can continue the relationship with my wife or not.

Also, I am contemplating to inform the guy’s wife (yes, he is married with a son) or not. All I know is that that he is also having major problem with his wife as well.

I have left the house as of yesterday and am now confused on what to do next.

Thanks in advance for anyone advice to me. Appreciate it

Netizens’ comments

1. Wow 2 young children and yet the mother went to see another guy for romance. That’s fked up, Going out with a guy overseas romantically without informing is a BIG no-no.
   Your 2 kids will grow up one day to realise how their mother is like. RIP
2. I can only give you advice based on what I did in a similar situation.
   I told her, nicely, “if you want to live a different life, go and live it. Leave this home and build a new one. The kids will remain here with me. You will have access, we can work out the details.”
   The goal here is to negotiate an amicable divorce, where the children stay with you. (Assuming you want that). If it’s a contested divorce, you will lose daily access to them because the law is in favour of women. By maintaining the household on your own, and convincing her this is the better option for her.
   As for telling the AP’s wife, well I think you should, but you should also choose the timing wisely. Blowing up your wife’s life like that can make the abovementioned much harder, or impossible. She will see you as someone who destroyed her happiness. Yes the hypocrisy is apparent, but it’s also a mainstay in the cheater’s playbook.