Wife made a comment that hurt me more that I would expect. How to get past that?
Recently my wife (together for 6years) was a bit tipsy, in a good mood and casually comments that apparently she thinks I have small balls and goes on with ”I’ve never believed I would end up with a guy with so small nuts”.
I replied that it was a strange comment and we didn’t discuss further.
I know she loves me and she’s naturally not together with me because of my genitals. I always had the impression that she was quite happy with it (normal sized). And I’m not usually easy to hurt.
But they way she said it still hit me way harder that I would expect.
I completely lost the desire to sleep with her or even cuddle. She is starting to notice it.
Not sure why it affecting me and what to do about it. Maybe I just need time?
How do I get past this?
Netizens’ comments
- It was mean thing to say… but honestly I’ve seen long balls (I’m a nurse) and the senior men’s hit the toilet water when they sit down. I’m sure yours are just beautiful
- Gonna hop on this train too. Male nurse here. Seen some large balls on people and gotta say there’s never been a time I thought, man if only mine were like that.
Although i get your sentiment, as it was a strange criticism, I’d much rather have a smaller pair than a larger one. As this other nurse stated, big ones have their downsides.
But now that I think about it, idk if I’ve ever heard a woman comment on nut size and I’m curious on what people think about the topic now.
Anyway, i think you should ask for clarification, just for your sake, but I wouldn’t be that concerned about it if it were me. - I get the impression your hurt has less to do with having small balls, and more to do with her saying “I’ve never believed I would end up with a guy….”
To me, that sounds like she’s saying she’s disappointed with who she ended up with. And I’m sure that’s not what she meant, since you say she loves you. But if I’m right about the phrasing, I think that’s your ‘in’ to dialog. “The other night when you said you never thought you’d end up with a guy like me, it made me feel like you regret being with me, or that I’m not living up to some sort of standard you have”
I think if you phrase it like that, it’ll give her an opportunity to understand that the hurt isn’t just about small balls, and a chance to ease your mind by explaining what she really meant.