buying noise canceling earbuds to tune my wife out in the morning?
I am 32 and male. My wife is 36. We have been married for five years now.
I work in a job where every morning I have different tools and items to prepare. On some days I’ll be working at an office building, other days I’ll be in a meeting, and occasionally I’ll be working at someone’s house.
Each job requires different tools, each day requires different preparations to go smoothly.
My wife has a very bad habit of following me around our home with miscellaneous items while I’m trying to find the tools that I need for the day, chosen haphazardly, asking if I need them that day or not.
She seems to think that she’s helping me get ready for my work, but she only distracts me and has caused me to forget things I actually did need at times.
The issue is she won’t do it once or twice; she’ll rapid-fire out ideas, and when I thank her but tell her I don’t need any help, she just goes “Yeah yeah yeah, but how about this?” as she holds up a new item.
I’ve tried sitting her down and explaining to her that she’s not helping me, but she keeps doing it.
I reached my breaking point. After work I went shopping and got myself a cheap pair of noise canceling earbuds.
From the next morning, I put them in, played some white noise (I’m not a big music guy), and went about my business.
My wife kept trying to get my attention by waving her hand in front of my face, as she held miscellaneous items, but it was a lot easier than normal.
I’ve also found that sending her on a little mission to get something will help a lot and wish I had thought of it sooner.
Last night she sat me down and got really angry for ignoring her in the morning. I asked what I was supposed to do, to which she responded “You’re supposed to listen to your wife.”
Did I go too far for taking this step?