Have I been gaslight by my hubby or what?
3 years ago right before coviq19 hit, my husband was at a low point of his career, so I encouraged him to go overseas for a breather n think through his next career move. And so he did, together with one of his good guy friend AND my father in law, they went to Taiwan to revisit some old business contacts. (I didn’t join as I had to stay around and take care of our kids).
Everything went well for the trip, he told me they visited several factories and the trip was very exhausting.
A few weeks after he got back, I happened to use his ipad, innocently wanting to use it to Google something. It was then I was awakened by rude shock. I saw some trails on his Google bar indicating that someone searched for “where to find girls in kaohsiung”. I then convinced myself that it was nothing and even deleted the search and swept things under the carpet, not a single question asked.
So fast forward 3 years later which is now, countries start to reopen and without even asking me, he booked a trip to Kaohsiung together with 7 old time guy friends including the one whom went with him 3 years ago. As all of us knew each other including the wives, I thought I shouldn’t be over sensitive and be a spoil sport since all the wives approved this trip without any suspicion. However the memory of me discovering the Google search started to resurface.
So the night before this trip, I decided to confront my husband on this matter. His body language and facial expression didn’t convince me that he was telling the truth.
I told him if he were to do anything funny in kaoshiung, please try not to leave trails. Then I went on to reopen the can of 3 years old worms.
He didn’t deny but got agitated and asked me if I actually saw it on MY Google. I said no and i saw it on HIS. He went on to say I didn’t trust him and said it was just Google suggestions and he even swore that he told his 7 khakis that he prayed that all of them will come home safe so that there won’t be 7 widows bla bla bla and that not all men are just thinking abt sex and this trip was meant to be a guys bonding trip and nothing else. He also added that even if someone did the search, he wouldn’t know if its his friend who did it.
Guys can you please enlighten me? How does Google work? It’s obviously under Google search history but he said its a Google suggestion? Is he telling the truth or am I overthinking?