My wife is 20 weeks pregnant. We have 2 kids
Ever since the beginning of her pregnancy, she has got into the habit of sending the kids to me whenever they ask her for permission. She tells them “I’m ok with it but check with your dad once”. The first time she did this, I told the kids that I was also ok with it since my wife was ok with it. That day, she’d told me that I’m not actually supposed to give them permission and that she doesn’t want them to think that she’s not allowing them which is why she tells them to ask me. She said that I’m supposed to say no. I initially agreed but now the kids are saying that I never let them do anything etc.
So I told my wife that this cannot continue any longer and that she would also have to learn to say no and not make me look bad in front of the kids. She refused to say she doesn’t want the stress of listening to the kids whine during her pregnancy. I got mad and said that the next time she sends the kids to me, I’ll be giving them permission.
She started crying and said I’m being inconsiderate of her feelings and that the kids will hate her if she says no. She said that I should take one for her happiness. I refused and stood my ground saying that I will no longer be the bad guy while she pretends to be the nice guy.
Today, the 10yo asked if she could go to her friend’s place for a sleepover. My wife told her that she was completely fine with it but daddy might not be ok with it so to ask me permission first. I was pissed because she threw me under the bus once again. So I told my daughter that she was free to go. My daughter excitedly hugged me as she had expected me to say no.
When she was out of the room, my wife started to yell at me saying I’m a jerk for not helping her out.