For the past two weeks, I have been dating my ex behind my current husband’s back. Although dating, maybe too much said, we mostly meet to “have some fun”.
I love my husband very much, he is tender, kind to me, in bed he is also good. I split up with my ex a few years ago because we argued constantly, he yelled at me.
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for two months. I don’t take birth control, we have stated that to make it last longer we will use the pull out method.
However, I want the baby to be my ex’s… I don’t want him to raise it, but I want it to have his qualities, his confidence, his determination, his hardworking, his masculinity. I don’t want to pass on that “softness” of my current husband to the child.
So for the past two weeks, I have been visiting my ex and letting him finish inside me….He knows I’m off the pill but doesn’t care, so I guess it doesn’t matter to him.
I think my husband will be a great father, thanks to just his caring nature. That he would raise my child with me to be a wonderful human being. But I don’t want to hurt him so I’m afraid to talk to him.
What should I do? Should I prepare to be a single mother? Or should I go back to my ex even though I don’t want to? Or, as I sometimes think, should I go see a psychiatrist?
Here are what netizens think:
- If what you’re saying is true, then I’d strongly encourage you to break up with both guys today and go see a psychiatrist…seriously, ASAP. A baby is the last thing you need right now.
- The child isn’t even created yet, and I already fear for him/her.
- The first thing I would do is come clean to your husband. The second thing you might want to do i brush up on your genetics. Many of those traits you like are learned, not inherited.