9 months ago, my husband was at a friends birthday party, and he was drunk, and he got a BJ from some early-20s girl who was at the party, and then they apparently had S for a few seconds before he stopped and left. He told me the next day what happened. I was devastated, and also somewhat relieved. I am gonna be honest, there is an attractiveness gap between us, in that he is a very hot, fit guy and I am a chubby short woman lol.
I have, somewhat, always SLIGHTLY suspected cheating, its always been in the back of my mind since we started dating, like “why would he not cheat on me? he could get any girl he wanted”. But it was never too big for me to really think THAT much about it. ANYWAYS, when he told me that, some part of me was relieved, in that I know now that he does feel bad about cheating and that he isn’t banging supermodels every week while I’m at work.​
I was still devastated though to a large extent, and I told my sister and mother about it and we talked for a while. They really wanted me to leave him, they have absolutely zero tolerance for it, but I was pretty torn and wanted to stay. I ended up staying. We do have an amazing marriage together, and one drunken mistake that he right away apologized over… it seems absolutely absurd that I could just give up my 13-year marriage over it. We are very happy together, I couldn’t even really imagine my life without him. Hes a bit of an goofball idiot but thats okay.​
But my family, they are seemingly angry with me over my decision. They bring it up to me a LOT, how they hate him, how they think I need to leave him, and how horrible cheaters are. I’ve told them, please, stop bringing this up, its my marriage. They just won’t listen, its like they think I am under some kind of spell.
Did my husband put a gong tao on me?​