My (29F) husband (30M) thinks I’m being unreasonable. I think it’s time to end this marriage for good. We’ve been married for 3 years now, together for 5. He’s always been an ‘alright’ partner – we don’t argue much and he’s there for me when I have a problem. But I always wished he’d make more effort.
He never wants to celebrate special occasions, including my birthday or Christmas. He never takes me out on dates and lately I feel like he doesn’t understand me at all.
It was my birthday last week, and during the week leading up to that, I had multiple discussions with him about how I’d love for him to make the day special. To actually get me presents and a nice card. He said he understood the importance of it and this year would be different.
So he does actually get me some presents – but when I unwrap them, they’re all kind of random, and things that HE likes. Presents included: a beer making kit, tickets to a musical (I hate musicals), and a £100 voucher to spend at a gym wear store (I don’t go to the gym).
I asked him the logic behind these gifts and eventually he explained to me that they were all prizes he won on some app where you can win the online ads you see – hence why they were all stuff only HE liked.
This was it for me. I was done.
I stormed out the house and drove to my mom’s house. I was so full of anger and felt like in that moment all the feelings I once had for him, all the hope I had for us, just disappeared.
I sent him a text to say I want a divorce and that I deserve better. I’ve received voicemails from him saying that I’m over-reacting and that he just wants to talk to figure it out. I don’t want to.
My mom says I am making a mistake – she says he’s at least trying to change as he did get me gifts but I think she’s wrong. This man doesn’t love me in the way I deserve.
What do you think?