Found out that my wife of 12 years was hooking with two other men
Six months ago, my( 36M) now ex wife (37F) of 12 years confessed to me that she had been hooking up with two other men over the past year of our marriage.
We got a divorce because she wanted to be with one of the other men that she has been hooking up with. Our marriage seemed to be going great and we had a pretty good life.
I keep myself in shape and I’m pretty well hung down below, as well as I’d like to think I’m a fairly good looking guy. Fast forward to now and I feel completely defeated in bed.
I don’t know if I wasn’t performing up to her standards or what was wrong because she didn’t really want to talk to me about it.
I feel empty and if I try to get back into relationships and start hooking up again, I feel like I’m going to let other women down.
Have any people experienced this with a marriage and if so, how did you get yourself back into the relationship and bedroom game, even with being older?
Side note: I am not looking to bash my ex wife. I am only looking for comfort and advice in the situation.
Edit: I gave my wife a lot of emotion, romantic, and physical love outside of our bedroom. She always complimented me on that. She never mentioned any areas where I was lacking in that department and I always asked her if there were things I could improve on.
Netizens’ comments
- I don’t have any great advice, but the first thing you have to understand is that your spouse cheating on you is a HER problem, not a YOU problem.
- I was f-ing constantly. Three or four times a day. Didn’t matter. She cheated anyway. Some people are just like that. I have a friend who told me his wife was like an AV star in bed. Anything was possible. She never denied him affection. He cheated on her constantly. Some people are just like that. I know you want closure. You’ll never get it. It’s her. Not you!
- It’s not you, it’s her…don’t drag yourself down.