My [37M] wife [28F] has been having her male friend [30M]over quite a lot, how do I tell her I’m not ok with this?
Tldr; he’s been over while I’m at work. I have my own business so I’m often working at my company weekdays and weekends. She’s had him over quite a bit while I’ve been gone.
I’ve often come home to them together. He helps with our kids a bit and he’s a nice guy. I just am not sure if I’m comfortable or if it’s normal to have him at our house 3/4 times a week. He almost lives with us now.
I worry about my kids bonding with him better because my kids love him and he plays with them quite a bit. They love me too and I’m likely paranoid but I feel as though they are bonding with him too much.
My wife is pregnant so I don’t want to upset her at this moment. She’s a lovely person and takes our eldest to school and looks after our daughter all day and teaches her (did the same with our eldest son). She is a lovely wife and is good to me, maybe I’m being dramatic?
I’ve tried not to be controlling like my dad used to be. I saw him being so controlling and horrible that I knew I never wanted to be like that to my wife. If I am being controlling please tell me in the comments.
If I’m not how do I tell her I want him over less?
Netizens’ comments
- I suggest you take a few days off. Just start popping up when you should be at work with flowers, food and spend more time with her. Not even incase she is cheating, just cause you love her and you never know when your time together will be up.
- Business sometimes can’t stand being closed.
In that case he might need to find a helper to be at the business. So that a permanency is being established.
And transfer other work that can be done (accountancy, bookkeeping, writing offers, taking calls) to his home.
“Now that you are so far in your pregnancy I am worried about your health.” - Mate, the simple answer is spend more time with your wife and kid so she doesn’t feel the need to have her mate over all the time helping out
- Am I the only one who thinks that because she’s pregnant he’s around more to give her more relax time? Did u ask why he hangs around so much? We got no context about this guy and their friendship at all.