Improvement is hard, but we can do it.
Hey everyone, I 28F have been together with my boyfriend 30M for 1 year and I am very sure he’s the one. And I hope my post helps the people out there who are struggling like me.
However, recently we had a huge argument & took some time off each other. After that, we had a talk where we both agreed that I was being too controlling.
So for context – I get upset and angry if he keeps in contact with his female friends & goes out with them 1 on
1. It came to a point where everytime he tells me he is going out with a friend, I’ll always ask about the gender. Just all in all, if I have time or if he have time, I want him to spend it with me. I want him all to myself.
Before you guys bash me, I would like to say that I agree it is a toxic behavior as my partner has his own life. Hence, I’m working towards it.
I’m posting this because some days I struggle with improving myself and working on myself and some days I find it easy. I would like to say that – For couples that are struggling with this, be patient with one another. Change is not easy & it really takes time. Help one another out & talk it out. Take a break from each other to think through things if needed. Some days are harder than the others but as long as we are trying, it gets easier.
For people who are struggling with this issue or other relationship issues, I hope you can take a step back to question yourself why are you feeling the emotions you’re feeling? Is it because of a previous relationship? If so, I hope you learn to let go of it. Don’t be trap in your past. It’s not easy. I’ve been there & I’m still working on it.
Jiayou!