GF is mad I want to start using condoms, says I don’t trust her natural method of B/C (rhythm method)
For the year & a half we’ve been together my girlfriend & I have never used condoms, contraceptives. I am constantly paranoid we are going to get pregnant, so much that anytime she says she’s not feeling good I immediately think, welp this is it.
I communicated that I want to start wearing condoms. I realize how dumb I’ve been participating in not wearing protection & want to correct this behavior.
Girlfriend is mad at me because she says I don’t trust her ability to monitor her menstrual cycle (rhythm method) & that is her preferred choice of B/C.
I don’t really know how to go about this. This has been a wonderful relationship that I’d like to stay in. But I’m close to losing my cool & telling her pulling out & the rhythm method is a crap method of B/C, that I deserve to feel safe in the bedroom.
I’m not asking her to go on a BC that will mess with her hormones. Just that I want to start wearing condoms. Is this a major red flag where I should rethink my future with this person?
- “I want to start wearing condoms, and this is my right .It’s not about trust for you, but about controlling my own fertility. I’m sure you understand.”
- Don’t ask if you can wear condoms, just start doing it.
- What makes your girlfriend think they are somehow better at it than the roughly 24% who fail at this each year? Bro, that’s you flipping a coin twice and getting tails two times in a row odds.