It’s my birthday tomorrow and my girlfriend is mad that I will be spending the day with my grandma.
My birthday falls on the same day as my grandparents anniversary. Ever since my grandpa died, I would take my grandma out on the day because I noticed how sad she would be but would try to keep it together so that I enjoyed my day. We don’t live together anymore because my aunt arranged for her to be in a home due to health issues.
What I do now is take the day off and take treats to the home for her to enjoy with her friends. We then have lunch and some cake. It really makes my grandma happy and I love it. I try go whenever I can because she never gets visitors and my aunt has since moved away. Now onto the issue, my girlfriend and I have been dating since the beginning of the year and she wanted us to do something special together for my birthday and so did I.
I wanted her to come with me then afterwards we could do something later that night but she does not want to come with. She has a lot of anxiety when she is around people she does not know. She suggested that I go another time and we just spend my birthday together and give my gran a call instead.
I call her every other day so there would be nothing special about that. My gran is already looking forward to it and rather excited about seeing me. I also can’t wait to see her as I have been so busy at work. And I love how she always lovingly scolds me that I always buy her favourite flavoured cake even though it’s my birthday because I know that she absolutely loves chocolate.
My girlfriend is not having it and is concluding this as me choosing my grandma over her and not wanting to spend the day with her like other couples do. I am now the worst boyfriend on the planet and it makes me sad because I thought this would be the perfect chance for her to meet my gran.