WOMAN CAN’T FIND A BF BECAUSE ALL THE S’POREAN MEN THAT SHE DATED WANT KIDS, SHE DOESN’T

Is it just me or do many Singaporean young men want kids

I’ll start by saying that this is purely based on observation/interaction with the people around me, and that the views may not be representative of all young adults in Singapore.

I’m 24F, graduated from university last year and have been in the workforce since then. I’ve met a couple of guys around my age (24-27 years old) either from school or other social events but none of my relationships have worked out thus far because I’m not too keen on having kids (I don’t mind though I’m leaning more towards a no at this point in time) and all the guys that I’ve dated so far want kids (it’s a must for them because they want to leave something behind for the world when they die).

I’ve spoken to many of my other female friends my age who are single (and working) and they have been saying the same thing. They find it hard to find a guy of a similar age and in a similar phase of life as us (aka working and not studying) because guys our age (or slightly older) who are still single generally want kids. Not quite sure how true this is and hence the question. Maybe my sample population is flawed.

Netizens’ comments

1. do you have any guesses why guys your age arent working yet
2. are you sure? guys prefer a more laid back life. having kids is more work and responsibility. some men don’t even want to cook or do any chores let alone change diapers, teach or feed someone.
3. If I don’t have to suffer 10 months and can offload the shitty part of child rearing to the wife/mother/grandmother and not have my career affected by having a kid, I also want la.
4. Me I want kids. If my wife comes from a very rich family, then I’d like enough for an 8-men section.
5. Easy to say they want a football team when they’re not the ones dealing with the body destroying work and you have a baby to take care of after.
   That being said my kid has been the best thing to ever happen to me and I would do it all over again but god damn it’s a hard do not recommend. The first 1-2 years getting a solid 4 hours of sleep was a luxury, social life is gone, you literally see you become a shell of your former self from the lack of sleep. It’s heartbreaking. But the joy. The love you experience and the wonder watching the little human become themselves is something that makes everything worth it.
   You really, REALLY need to be sure you want this before anything else.