So, my twin brother [M23] and his GF [F21] are going to have a baby, and they found out that it’s going to be a girl. So when they were asked about what they would name their baby, they said that they were planning on naming the baby “Amelia.”
Now I wasn’t happy about this, but I wanted to give them a chance to explain themselves, so I asked why they would give their baby that name. My brother’s GF said that she has a coworker with that name, and that she loved it because of how unique and quirky it was.
This really upsets me (and her reasoning for giving her that name made me even more angry), because I was hoping to name a future daughter of mine “Amelia” after a late childhood friend who passed away from cancer when we were 12. Her name is extremely important to me because Amelia and I made a promise that if she was going to pass away, I would name my daughter after her so that she can be remembered and would “officially” be part of my family.
It’s even worse in my opinion, because this is no secret and my brother knows about that promise, and I have talked about it multiple times beforehand.
So, I voiced my disagreement over the name and told them why I didn’t like for them to give their baby that name, and asked if they was any way that we can pick a different name for their baby. But they told me that I was being entitled about it and said that they weren’t going to change their minds about it because I don’t have the right to “claim” the name, especially since they were having a daughter first and they don’t know if I’ll ever have a daughter in the future anyways.
My brother did try to compromise by stating that he’ll be the one to uphold that promise for me, and that he’ll make sure that Amelia will be properly remembered. But I told him that won’t work, because I was the one that Amelia asked to make that promise, and it wasn’t going to be the same since he never made that same promise to her.
However, at the end, they insisted on naming their future daughter “Amelia” and I just walked away in anger over the whole thing.
I haven’t talked to them for about a week, and I have been intentionally avoiding them because I really don’t want to deal with them.
But friends and family are telling me that they are really disappointed in me that I’m acting so childish and to get over myself over a name, and to apologize to my brother and his GF over making a scene about it.