My husband, Chris, and I have been married for almost 10 years. He has three daughters with his ex-wife: Madison (F23), Adaleine (F17), and Lana (F10).
Lana and Adaleine live with us, while Madison lives with her mother and she got into two extremely good schools.
I didn’t really care; we never really got along well. She resents her dad for moving on so fast while her mom was single for another 2 years.
I just want to add that me and my husband didn’t know each other until after they had divorced. We met at a support group.
They divorced because she had an affair with another man, and when she found out she was pregnant with Lana, she didn’t know who the father was and couldn’t lie about it, but Lana did end up being my husband’s.
which is fair because we got married after only dating for 3 months, but it doesn’t justify the constant awful behavior.
When I was pregnant, she refused to help me with simple tasks like going grocery shopping or cooking. and when my son was born, she would refuse to watch him.
I don’t expect much from her. I just want her to help with her brother. It’s not like she doesn’t want to watch him because anytime my husband asks her, she’s more than willing.
We are having a birthday party for Lana and I’m planning everything. Her mother is coming to surprise her since she usually only sees her every once in a while.
While we were on the phone, she mentions Madison coming with her and I tell her she isn’t allowed to come.
She got extremely angry and started saying that Lana isn’t my child and I’m robbing her of having a relationship with her mother. I understand Lana isn’t my child, but I’m paying for everything, excluding the flight.
Madison and her see each other for 2 months every year, and according to Adaleine, she’s very rude the entire time.
I may be overstepping my boundaries, but I do feel like it is justified.
Also, adding that the person who hurt my husband was not his ex-wife, it was his ex-from before, around the time, and he and his ex-wife came to terms