(20F) (21M) My boyfriend didn’t tell me that he was trans and I feel betrayed.
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 3 months, and he never told me he was trans until we were about to get intimate for the first time.
I feel betrayed, not because he is trans, but because he never told me that he was trans until I was in a vulnerable situation with him, and I completely didn’t expect it.
I’ve told him multiple times that I am not upset that he is trans, but the fact that he hid an important aspect of him from me, after he told me that I knew everything about him.
He hasn’t had top or bottom surgery, so I was completely shocked and told him that I couldn’t do it right then, he then became very upset.
He’s still mad at me for not doing it right then, but I am upset because he didn’t tell me about it, so I was totally caught off guard.
I’m not sure if I can continue this relationship, I don’t want to hurt him, but I’m also hurt myself.
I need some advice.