My boyfriend doesn’t change his underwear everyday and I find it repulsive
Lately my boyfriend started to take less care of his hygiene. His excuse is that he’s too busy or that he forgets.
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Sometimes, he wears the same boxers for three days. I told plenty times him that it was nasty and unattractive to me.to him, it’s not a big deal. We’re not having sex unless he took a shower and changed his clothes before.
But something changed, I’m really starting to lose attraction because of that, i can’t help but think about it when we’re intimate. He’s a grown man and I just can’t understand why it’s hard for him to be clean.
Netizens’ comments
- This is a key question – I’m a very hygienic person and care about my appearance, but I went through a divorce last year and there were times where I’d wear the same underwear and socks for 2-3 days at a time because I just didn’t really care due to the toll it took on my mental health.
- To Everyone saying “why is it always about mental health etc, some people are just nasty etc” – Yes this is 100% true, no arguments regarding that, I don’t think anyone would argue that either.
But this person is right, it also CAN be due to bad mental health. It’s quite frustrating that people are commenting to disprove this, as both opinions could be true.
But when people come to this comment and say it’s just an excuse etc, don’t blame everything on mental health…. Why? What do you get from it, what is there to gain from such comments?
I am this person. Over a long period, gave up on myself, no self respect/motivation. Personal interests went out the window, as did personal hygiene like clean clothes, brushing teeth and showering. Lone behold in a much better place now and think that I “Deserve” to be here, and have a good level of self esteem…maybe a bit too vain these days of anything - I would say that it depends on the quality of his hygiene. I’m pretty obsessed with daily showers, if not twice a day depending on how active I have been. That being said, when I was younger, I realized that my obsession with cleanliness isn’t really relevant to the rest of the world; if anything, it was a byproduct of growing up in a very privileged life. Just because you wore a shirt, or underwear for that matter, does not automatically make it dirty. I could wear a shirt for two days and have it be cleaner than the one I wore for a game of basketball in an afternoon. So what it really comes down to is not how long something is being worn (to a point), but rather how nasty you get while wearing that item of clothing. If he’s wearing clothes and just lounging around, it’s probably not worth washing immediately and can last another day or two. If he’s getting sweaty and being active, then continuing to wear the items for a couple days, that’s nasty. It’s all relative.