How to handle daughter’s lack of modesty
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My husband and I are having a disagreement about the appropriate level of our teenage daughter’s modesty around the house.
She is a beautiful girl and has a high level of confidence about her body, which is fantastic. I know there are many young women who do not have that!
But as part of that, she has become quite comfortable wearing very little around our home. I’m not sure why it rubs me the wrong way that she’s often in her underthings but it does.
My husband thinks I’m being controlling and sending the wrong messages about owning your body, positivity, etc.
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Thoughts are welcome!
Netizens’ comments
- info: what exactly is she wearing that bothers you
- Underwear, like panties and tank top, or little pajamas. That kind of thing.
- Sounds like items a human should be able to wear in their own home.
- Underwear, like panties and tank top, or little pajamas. That kind of thing.
- “I’m not sure why it rubs me the wrong way-” I think it’s incredibly important you get in touch with that and figure it out if you can! Until you do, your reasons for implementing a rule will be half baked. And in that case, it might send an unintentional message.
It could be there is a good reason to set a new standard, but unless you’re in touch with it, you can’t tell it apart from a personal insecurity, a trigger, a trauma, a projection, a judgement, etc. “It makes me uncomfortable” is not the same as “It’s inappropriate”.