I 28f found a drawer full of panties in my bfs 31m apartment
I (28f) and my bf (31m) have been together for a few months now. Everything seemed to be going great until yesterday when I found a drawer full of another girls panties and socks. I immediately closed the drawer and stood there not sure what to think.
Side note: I have been in a few toxic relationships and they included cheating. I suffer from a slew of mental health issues. This is my first “healthy” relationship.
I walked out into the living room where he was sitting on the sofa and he looked at me and asked what was wrong.
I was so angry and hurt, that I immediately began to cry. I asked him about the drawer and he said his cousin sometimes comes over and showers and she leaves clothes here for her to change into.
He said he told her to find an empty drawer for all her clothes. Eyes full of tears I said that his cousin has a drawer full of panties, one even looked like a red lace thong.
I asked him how that was normal especially because they’re in the drawer in the nightstand by his bed. He said he didn’t know what my normal is but he told her to pick a drawer and he wasn’t aware she separated her panties from the rest of her clothes.
He then said he never tried to hide the fact that she has stuff there since she has all her shower things all over the bathroom (shampoo, conditioner, soap) I told him I didn’t think anything of the toiletries since he could have been the one using them, but a drawer full of panties? That was screaming sus.
He then began to get real defensive and started to raise his voice at me. When I tried to tell him how I felt and how weird it was to me he just kept talking over me saying it wasn’t a big issue.
My heart was in my ass and I was starting to have an anxiety attack. I got up and told him I was going home and left.
Now he’s mad at me saying he doesn’t want to be with me if I’m going to get up and walk away when there’s issues, and he isn’t the type to chase.
I tried to explain to him that when I tried to talk to him about how I felt he didn’t allow me to speak and instead added to my anxiety. Now here I am writing to y’all wondering what I should do.