It’s been a year since i found his word document of the women he slept with, he came into the bed room and I asked when did he sleep with [girl below my name]. He looked stunned and said “what are you talking about?” He swore up and down he never did. I told him to leave the house, and he did. He ended up calling a mutual friend.
He came home an hour later, and said his guy friends would “be furious if their wives went through their e-mail”. I told him, “that’s fine if they would be furious, but I am more furious over finding more lies.”
He acted incredibly awkward and admitted he was embarrassed I found it. He swore he did not sleep with [girl below my name]. We were not exclusive, they were drinking and they started fooling around. He couldn’t “keep it up” with her though, so they did not sleep together. The list is a name of girls he has seen naked. He made it at work one day when he was bored, he added the birthday column just to add to it and was going to add more, but got busy. There were other things on the document, and that is why he forwarded it to himself 2 years later. He hadn’t edited that part of it since it was first made.
I questioned him a great deal. Asked why he lied about this previously. We had many, many talks.
All in all, Mike was not a good boyfriend in the beginning, but he became a great boyfriend, fiancé, and amazing husband. He trickle-truthed to the point I had trust issues, but I stated to him if any more lies resurface, I would leave. When asked about the trickle truths, he was embarrassed and afraid of losing me. When everything had first come out, we had a long talk and it was certainly hard for him to say and me to accept. I told him I wouldn’t judge him for his past, but to be fair, I came off judgedy.
He knows and has taken ownership in his wrongdoings, his lying. I decided to forgive this last lie and understand it was so long ago, while the lie is not okay, our relationship was fantastic.
Many comments stated how did I know he didn’t cheat on me like he did in his past?
We legitimately spent all of our time together. There would have been no time alone for him to do so. We had an open phone policy, so while this is questionable, especially during pandemic and married I know he was not texting anyone.
I know many people would disagree, but despite his questionable past, he turned around once we got serious prior to engagement and has been an amazing husband.
I hope this lets people see people can change and with open communication you can get past issues.