A woman shared how her fiance has been talking behind her back and telling his friends that he thinks she’s “too fat”.
Here is the story:
“My fiance told his friends that he thought I was too fat.
To these days I still consider meeting him to be the luckiest thing that ever happened to me. I have been a fat girl since I was a child. During puberty, I became heavier due to the many hormone medications I was taking. I have always had problems with body image anxiety.
When I met Neil, I was at a low point in my life. Two years after graduation, I still couldn’t find a decent job and was working three part-time jobs. When we started dating, we quickly moved in together, and although I covered most of the expenses, he kept trying to split the costs even though he didn’t have much income. He also encouraged me to go back to studying to get a better-paying job, so I went back and got my master degree.
I always thought our relationship was very strong and that we had each other’s backs. The biggest argument between us was before covid, I had an unplanned pregnancy and Neil wanted to keep the baby, but I was just starting out in a business and I didn’t think it was a good time to get pregnant, so I ended up opting for an abortion. He was reluctant but respected my decision. He mentioned the baby several times afterward. I’m sorry about that, but I don’t regret going through with the abortion. Other than this incident, we hardly had any conflicts.
We got engaged last year and moved close to his parents. Since we moved there, he has been hanging out with his friends a lot. I was alone at home.
One day I met his friend’s wife while I was out and we spent some time in a cafe. She said, “I don’t know if I should tell you this, but Jiahao (Neil’s friend) said that Neil had said a lot of bad things about you in front of him. Neil says you’re too fat and selfish and there’s no point in getting another degree.”
I was shocked and confused because he had never said those words to me before. I was already fat when I met him, he was in great shape and went to the gym a few times a week, but he never asked me to lose weight. He also didn’t shame me when I talked to him about how I wanted to go get another degree.
Neil didn’t know I knew about it, he was still talking about the wedding and the house, and he told me he hoped I’d get pregnant soon because I owed him a baby. I have absolutely no idea how to handle this. Should I tell him I know all about it? I honestly love him so much and I don’t want to leave him.”
Editor’s note: Confront him about it.