37 years wasted.
I 24f just found out after months of suspicion that my dad 57m has been sleeping with my brothers 27m wife…
My mom and dad have been married 37 years. There’s been accusations and things that haven’t added up for a long time but yesterday my brother was on his wife’s Facebook and the messages from our dad started flooding in.
I’ve sat with my mom countless times listening to her sob and cry about this shit and now that I know it’s completely true and happening, I’m scared to death to tell her. I know I have to but how do I go about it, she’s my best friend.
- Well that is going to explode multiple families. Your dad and SIL have a lot to answer for.
Your mom and brother both deserve to know but I feel for you because it’s a horrible position to be in.
- Brother already knows. He was the one on his wife’s FB when the father’s messages were flooding in. Both he and sister could band together and break the news to mom.
- Wow. How awful. Your dad and SIL have been selfish and haven’t considered all the destruction this will cause. But your mom needs to know. Perhaps you and your brother could tell her together?
Your dad and SIL’s actions are absolutely repugnant, but your mom will be able to have the truth of who her partner is. My guess is that this isn’t his first affair. I have no idea how anyone ever starts an affair with an in-law. It’s tragic and incredibly awful.
Best of luck. Stay strong and I know you’ll be there for your mom. I assume this will also end your brother’s marriage – he will need your support, as well.
- This is going to blow up the family but your mom needs to know. Find a quiet setting and tell her, bring the evidence as well. It sounds like she already has a suspicion. Your brother is going to be going through hell as well. Your father and his daughter-in-law is just sick. Very selfish and pathetic. Please set up therapy and surround yourself with supportive friends and family. Don’t sweep this under the rug, people should know. Best luck to you.