How do you know if he is the right one?
I’m going to be in my mid 20s and I have been dating my first boyfriend for about 2 years and we met online.
I have lack of relationship experience so sometimes I don’t really know what is important for me to look out for in a partner.
I want to settle down soon (e.g. buying flat) and working towards future as I have goals and dreams, but I am still unsure if he is the right one. There are times when my gut feeling tells me he isn’t the one, especially when he does things that turn me off.
We argue pretty often but usually it resolved in awhile. It is difficult to pin point everything here as I do understand there are definitely problems in a r/s. I am just wondering how do you tell if someone can live with you for the rest of your life. I am definitely not trying to say that I want a perfect partner with zero problems in the future but at the same time I don’t wish that I regret marrying the wrong guy in the future.
Should I give myself more time? What should I do?
Here are what netizens think:
- If you are unsure then he isn’t the one. You’re still young so go out there and experience more relationships even platonic ones to understand what you want in a life partner. Have some fun, travel, see the world, meet new and exciting people. There is plenty of time before you find yourself settled in (stuck?) with the same person for the next 40-60 years!
- If you’re not sure and not ready, don’t settle. It sounds like you are still wondering if there’s a better one. Actually there’s no right or wrong guy. Its more about making a conscious choice to be with someone and commit to it. Also taking into consideration if you can get along well, especially when you have different opinions and views in all aspects of your lives. That’s why most believe its ideal to marry your best friend. Is he your best friend?
- Forget what the world tells you about a fixed set of criteria. The most important thing is a person’s character. That, you can only find out for yourself, over time. No one else can decide what’s best or acceptable for you. It takes a lot of trial and error. And maybe if you are lucky, one relationship is all you need. But most people do go through a few relationships before they settle.
- There is no such thing as a “better one” only the suitable one