I had an affair with a married man and now I am pregnant…
AP (affair partner) and I met at work 2 years ago and began having an affair. This has gone on for a little over a year. He is currently married with 3 children and I am in a relationship with someone for the past 3 years.
My boyfriend and I have no issues. He essentially is perfect, but we are very… bland. I would describe us similar to roommates.
We have the regular cookie cutter plan to have children and get married, both of us very complacent with our plans, but moving independently.
AP and I have unimaginable chemistry. Earlier this year, we decided that we were going to be together. His young son unexpectedly died. Drastically changing the course of everything.
I found out I was pregnant last week after being late. It is definitely AP’s. I took a Plan B after an accident, but obviously did not work. AP and I have discussed how to go about this situation.
He wants to be together, but the guilt of telling our family members and my boyfriend is keeping me awake at night, eating me up.
An abortion is considered, but I know I need to face that responsibility and live with it myself, leaving behind my AP for good.
Obviously prepared for hate and judgment in the comments, but needed to just write it out rather than keep talking about it in therapy.
Netizens’ comments
- This is a really terrible situation to have gotten into. I really empathize for your partner and your AP’s wife. And the shitstorm of pain the two of you are about to place on them. I wouldn’t wish that type of hurt on anyone.
You’d better hope this doesn’t come back on you years from now. The same pain and hurt you’ve created for two unknowing people. - Bland? As if any other relationship is going to be anything but.
Friendships start off exciting and they end up being bland where you just hang around and do nothing but talk about the same shit and maybe go out once in a while. Same with family or any relationship.
Getting comfortable in a relationship and feeling safe and enjoying the mundanity is so underappreciated right now. Relationships get old. You don’t ruin them for it. You celebrate it.
A person chose you to spend their day to day with you. To be with you through the most exciting and terrible and boring phases and this is what they get served in return.
I hope your boyfriend and his wife get better than what they’ve lost. Because there’s someone out there willing to be better for good people. - I feel sorry for the baby. You need to break it off with your bf. Let him go so he can find someone who will love him as he deserves. Which isn’t you. Your AP needs to tell his wife so she can move on and find someone to love and care for her as she deserves. Which isn’t him.