Every time I’m around my M28 husbands mom, she always makes comments about me being lazy and not working.
I understand it’s not the norm since I’m only a F23 but I don’t think it’s fair that she calls me out for it.
Her son has a really good job in tech that more than easily covers our lifestyle and he supports me not working. He likes being the provider.
Last time I saw his mom she called me a “spoiled and entitled girl” and she also made comments about my weight.
My husbands mom is from India but he was born here so idk if it’s cultural or why she thinks it is okay to make these comments and accusations but it’s a huge stressor for me knowing that she thinks I’m lazy.
How can I deal with her in a nice way?
She is: jealous of your relationship with her son jealous that you don’t work jealous that if you have kids, you’re in charge jealous you are afforded a lifestyle she wants
She sees her son as an extension of herself and she would not let you stay home.
She cannot be reasoned with and will continue because she sees it has an impact on you. If your husband says to stop, she will double down that it’s her right to say it OR she will move on to the next insult. She sounds exhausting.
I wish you the best!