I (34f) had lunch with male coworker (34m). Husband (35m) is furious.
Spoke to him on the phone during my quick morning break and said I’m really hungry today – the weather always makes me eat more!
Told him I might grab a sandwich at lunchtime and he suggested getting something hot from a cafe. Then spotted a male colleague at the school I work at and he asked if I fancied lunch at the cafe, another female colleague would be joining us.
I said yes – stomach was growling and I’m not one to sit in a cafe by myself anyway.
Lunchtime, female coworker changed her mind so me and male colleague popped down and ate (his wife teaches at the same school but she didn’t fancy coming as she had stuff to catch up on).
Great lunch, a good natter, happy days! Finished work, and my husband called me, asked who I had lunch with – I said someone dropped out so me and male colleague went anyway.
He had a massive strop, hung up on me, called me back to carry on having a go at me (eg. “Does his wife know you went for lunch together?!” And I said “yes? Of course she does”)
It was a quick half hour in a busy cafe with a hot chocolate and a panini – I was honest, no reason to lie, but sort of wish I had.
Have I crossed some sort of line by having a bite to eat with my colleague?? Be honest, I am happy to apologise for being in the wrong, but I just didn’t read that much into it and my husband clearly has… and now I’m wondering if he’s projecting.
Things were rocky lately anyway, and it feels like everything I do is wrong these days.
Once again, I just wanted unbiased opinions, I guess; my friends would be on my side regardless but I WANT to hear if I’m the one in the wrong here!! I had such a lovely day, not just lunch but at work in general and it just feels ruined now!