Hookup wouldn’t let me sleep!
I (28f) hooked up with a guy that I’ve been talking to for a while. He was honestly mediocre at best but not the worst.
However, when I tried to sleep he kept trying to talk! Or he wants to cuddle, wanted to touch me, and just UGH. I told him I needed to go home and feed my dogs just to get away from him. We hooked up around 2 am and I left around 7:30 am.
I swear this guy did not sleep at all. He kept grabbing me to lay on his chest which for some reason was so u comfortable. I just wanted to snuggle with the pillow and pass out but no. He kept caressing my arm, my side, and running his hands through my hair.
Then he wanted to start talking with me about work. Sir, it’s 4 am and I’m EXHAUSTED. I finally just pretended to fall asleep at which point he turned the TV on??
I vibed with him so hard and then only to find out he was mediocre in bed and the worst after that I’ve ever had…blegh, just stfu already.
I used to consider myself the queen of casual hook up until this, now I kind of want to avoid it from now on.
Netizens’ comments
- Perhaps that was this guy’s shy and timid attempt at after-care, which is something you can definitely improve on, yourself. Him trying was a green flag in my opinion.
All bedroom talk expectations aside for a second, at any moment you could have just said something like, “Hey, I’d really like to get some shut-eye, it’s been a long day, I’m tired”, at that point you gently get off of his chest and into a better sleeping position and out you go. - If you don’t express your wants, needs and boundaries, you have no right to be mad at someone for not getting them. Food for thought.
- Do you usually spend the night after a hook up? Back when I had random hook ups or one night stands after going to the bar, I almost never expected to spend the night or have her spend the night. It was wham, bam, thank you ma’am then “Ok, that was fun. We should do it again sometime” and then I’d leave her place or she’d leave mine.